Test-Driving a Marriage

Every once in a while, whether in person, on TV, radio or the Internet, I'll hear someone say, "Waiting until marriage to have sex, is like buying a car without test driving the thing."

(Before I talk any more, lets get one thing out of the way. I am not the morality police. Make your own choices.)

Normally, I hear it from guys, but I'm sure many women think the same. What do you think about that statement? Is that really the clinching issue in finding a spouse?

This is going to sound rude. And the reason it is going to sound rude, is because it IS rude. This should be appalling.

If the deciding factor in finding a wife (or husband), is how well she performs in bed, that's pretty lame.

Today we celebrated my wife's birthday, and I've been thinking a great deal about what makes her such an amazing woman, mother, and wife. Although we do sleep together, and it is a lot if fun, that has very little to do with how wonderful she is.

The things our world values in women are very different from what I treasure about her. If you hear a song about a woman, it likely has to do with how she 'does it', shakes her hips, looks, feels when you hold her tight, smells or turns you on.

And when I ask men what they like about their wives, the men who are happy in their marriages have yet to mention any sexual technique.

If you are worried about buying the car without a sexual test drive, don't worry about it. Dogs can figure it out. I'm sure you'll get by.