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People are rarely as secure in their life choices as they would prefer you to believe. Otherwise, how on earth could anyone ever “make them feel guilty”?
We are rarely as secure in our life choices as we would prefer others to believe. Otherwise, how could their words ever “make us feel guilty”?
Very good logic there, except that an attempt to make one feel guilty when one does not feel guilty is very revolting. No one likes feeling guilty let alone being told they are guilty; the entire reason the gospel is not good news to most people.
ReplyDeleteA person either agrees that guilt is warranted by means of some proof, or dismisses the accuser as an abuser.
In other words, if I must attend church on Sunday (or any other day) then it must be proven necessary. Otherwise, do not attempt to make me feel guilty about putting my boat in the water and fishing the morning away.
Good point. Wat about if I do no wrong and try to work things out, but the other person just does not want it for some reason. Should i feel guilty for not trying harder to remedy the situation? What if it involves family, do I let them abuse of their close relanshionship with me and let them "trick" me into doing whatever they want so that I dont feel guilty every time I look at them and they look away?
ReplyDeleteWe all done wrong in one way or another and feel guilty about it, in my opinion, one has no rights to make the other feel guilty about anything. We are all humans and we make mistakes. "let he who is without sin, cast the first stone"
If you know in your heart of hearts that your actions are good, honourable and right, people can try and make you feel guilty all they want. It might hurt. It might make you angry. Guilt won't be an accurate descriptor if you truly know beyong doubt that you stand on solid ground.
ReplyDeleteThe guilt comes in when we're not absolutely sure. We question ourselves, "Should I have done more, even though I didn't start this mess?"
I don't know who anonymous is, but there is a good book named Boundaries that talks about setting borders in our relationships. I hope you aren't being battered and bruised by those closest to you, but I have an hunch that it may be so.
And yes Travis. It is revolting when people do intentionally try to pry on the conscience of another.
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